3 Reminders of why Mindfulness cultivates Body Positivity
Remember getting ready one morning and looking in the mirror and thinking, "Well, this is the best I can do."
Was there a negative energy that followed you around that morning?
I had something in mind to wear this morning as I got ready for work. When I put my clothes on I didn't feel good. I didn't look like how I had imagined. I was hopeless for that moment. I felt a pit open in my stomach and felt the bubbling anxiety rise up out of it.
Lately, I've been having trouble with my self-image. I feel uncomfortable in the clothes that I wear. They don't reflect who I am. They often don't even fit me well.
I'm starting to feel self-conscious about my skin. Two years ago, I would always wear a full face of makeup. Now I feel like going back to hiding my face behind a veil of foundation and mascara.
I'm so preoccupied with myself and my body. I'm constantly trying to stand up straighter to fix a slouch someone teased me about. I'm obsessed with what goes into my body because I'm filled with worry about eating the 'right' foods.
It feels like I need to change. It feels like if I just shopped at Sephora and Forever 21 then my life would be improved. At times like this, I need some reminders of what I've already learned through my mindfulness practice;
1. No amount of material goods will ever be enough
There's no magical amount of items or goods that are going to bring you happiness and fulfillment. That means that if I have 5 t-shirts to choose from my life will not be any richer nor will I be more confident if I have 50 t-shirts.
2. If you aren't happy with the way you look, then change your attitude
If I'm not happy with the way I look, trying to change my outside appearance is not going to make me feel happy. It's my outlook that needs to change.
3. Nothing in nature blooms all year long
It's natural to have moments like I am having now. I don't have to feel pressured to be a special blossom all year long. No one is on their A-game 24/7. Life is cyclical in nature.
So how do I go about feeling better about myself?
I can take inspiration from others like I did in my article about body positive books. Unfortunately, comparison is the thief of joy.
I think what I need is some perspective. Sometimes our problems are simple. Sometimes I will feel better if I have a pair of pants to wear that fits just right.
But most of the time, and especially now for me, there needs to be a change of attitude. I think that being grateful for your body is better than pointing out its flaws. I think that I can take pride in my words and my actions and not in my style or my appearance.
Feeling comfortable in my own skin is a journey with no destination. I accept that I will veer off the path now and then. When I am unsure of what direction to go I can turn inwards and remind myself that I am in control of how I feel. I can have a thought and let it go. I can feel uncomfortable and I can tell myself that I am good enough.
I have to return to my mindfulness practice. Get out of my head a little where I'm overly observant and critical. Take time out of my day to observe my thoughts and how my body feels without judgment.
Maybe I'll also go shopping just a little.
Thanks for letting me share! Let me know below in the comments what you do when you're feeling not so hot about yourself.